Life is hard. Young men need answers. And more importantly, they need someone to show them how to apply those answers to their everyday lives. They need a mentor. You could be that mentor. Will you step up and answer the call?

The most successful people have one thing in common – they didn’t do it on their own. They had someone else who showed them the way. This website can connect you to people who can show you how to live life the way God intends it to be lived. Joshua had Moses. Paul had Barnabas. The disciples had Jesus. Who do you have?

Yes. The Holy Spirit uses the word of God to renew our minds, to change our attitudes – to transform us. He also uses people to show us how to live – how to practically apply truth to our daily decisions. Relationships with mature Christian disciples are one of the most important ways God teaches us how to walk in closer intimacy with Him.

In Deut 6:4-9 God instructed the Israelites to impress his laws and statues on those people in their care and to do so in very practical ways, all the time and in every situation – when rising up, when sitting, and when walking along the road. He instructed them to take his word with them where ever they go.

Prov. 13:14 tells us that the teaching of the wise is a source of life, and it turns a person from the snares of death. Prov. 15:22 tells us that many voices of counsel are needed for success. Prov. 27:17 explains that one person sharpens another (making them stronger and more effective).

In John 13:3-5 Jesus showed us that we are to serve one another in very practical life-to-life situations. And in Rom. 15:14 the Apostle Paul told the Roman Christians that he was glad that they were competent to teach one another.

Mentoring is really just a new term for an ancient formula: It’s the process of one person investing time in someone younger or less experienced in order to help them grow. Scripture is full of examples:

Moses had a mentor in Jethro, and in turn mentored Joshua.
Elijah mentored Elisha.
Naomi mentored her daughter in law Ruth.
Mary was mentored by her older cousin Elizabeth.
Jesus mentored Peter, James, John and the other disciples.
Paul was mentored by Barnabas, and then Paul mentored Timothy.

Mentoring is a key component of discipleship. It’s an important aspect of the great commission.

You may not feel qualified to mentor. You don’t need to have a lot of Bible knowledge. You have your testimony, and that’s enough. You would be surprised how valuable your life experience is. God can use you more than you know.

The most important ingredient is AVAILABILITY. Most people just need someone to listen. People don’t need to be preached to, they need someone to care – someone who will meet them where they are. Not where they ought to be. Like Jesus did.

Next is AUTHENTICITY. Don’t try to be something you’re not. People can smell a poser a mile away. Authenticity is everything.

And finally, FLEXIBILITY. Allow God to fashion a relationship around not just your strengths and experience, but around your protege’s needs.

How do I Mentor Someone? 

What does it look like? Where do I start? Great questions! Successful mentoring begins first and foremost with authenticity. What does that mean? Honesty, disclosure, and vulnerability. You have much to offer, but you have not yet arrived. None of us have. Nothing will work against you faster than a lack of authenticity. Most people can spot a poser a mile away. If you think you must have all the answers, you will repel rather than attract mentees/proteges. No one expects you to have all the answers. Proteges aren’t looking for someone with all the answers as much as they are looking for someone to help them discover together. You don’t have it all together in order to impact someone’s life.

So, cardinal rule number one is: Be Authentic.

With that very important principal in mind, start by sharing your story. If you are beginning a mentor-protege relationship with a new acquaintance, start by sharing your story. Childhood, background, events that shaped who you are. Key elements of your faith journey. Start with your interests, aptitudes, skills, career information, work history.

If you are starting a mentor-protege relationship with people you already know, start by reviewing the story of your faith journey. How did you come to faith in Christ? What has the Lord taught you in your faith walk? What have you learned from others? And review your interests, aptitudes and abilities. You are wired the way you are for a reason. What are your unique interests and abilities?

Then discuss how you arrived at where you are. What signifiant life events have brought you here to where you are today?

Then ask them to share their story.

Ask them to share their goals and aspirations; What challenges are you facing? What questions or topics can we pursue together?

Rely on the Lord. He will show you the points of need, the opportunities for learning and growth. He will guide the relationship. It will become evident in time which direction the relationship should take. After a season of getting to know each other, go through a book together. Or discuss an article, podcast or other quality resource. In time, it will become natural to ask for prayer on a matter, and ask for advice.

In time you can go deeper by diving into more substantive resources (such as those listed on this site). Your journey together might focus around a hobby or past time, or it may focus around a particular topic such as their calling, their vocation, or a decision your mentee/protege is facing.

There are various models for mentoring. Mentoring can be one-on-one, or it can occur in a small group. If several protégées reach out and express a desire to meet, it might be practical to begin in a small group of 4 or 5 to start. Flexibility is important. Keep in mind several things:

Safety: Always meet in public at first. Never meet privately at first. Get to know your protege/mentor before exchanging any personal information. Follow the safety guidelines (link) in this site.

You are not alone. There is an online community of people across the country that can inspire, motivate, challenge and help you. Collaboration is key. Issues will come up that are challenging. Life is complex. And it’s messy. No one has all the answers, so utilize the resources on this website. We’ve collected some of the best resources available for you!

Click Here to See Stories of lives impacted through mentoring

What does it look like? Where do I start? Great questions! Successful mentoring begins first and foremost with authenticity. What does that mean? Honesty, disclosure, and vulnerability. You have much to offer, but you have not yet arrived. None of us have. Nothing will work against you faster than a lack of authenticity. Most people can spot a poser a mile away. If you think you must have all the answers, you will repel rather than attract mentees/proteges. No one expects you to have all the answers. Proteges aren’t looking for someone with all the answers as much as they are looking for someone to help them discover together. You don’t have it all together in order to impact someone’s life.

So, cardinal rule number one is: Be Authentic.

With that very important principal in mind, start by sharing your story. If you are beginning a mentor-protege relationship with a new acquaintance, start by sharing your story. Childhood, background, events that shaped who you are. Key elements of your faith journey. Start with your interests, aptitudes, skills, career information, work history.

If you are starting a mentor-protege relationship with people you already know, start by reviewing the story of your faith journey. How did you come to faith in Christ? What has the Lord taught you in your faith walk? What have you learned from others? And review your interests, aptitudes and abilities. You are wired the way you are for a reason. What are your unique interests and abilities?

Then discuss how you arrived at where you are. What signifiant life events have brought you here to where you are today?

Then ask them to share their story.

Ask them to share their goals and aspirations; What challenges are you facing? What questions or topics can we pursue together?

Rely on the Lord. He will show you the points of need, the opportunities for learning and growth. He will guide the relationship. It will become evident in time which direction the relationship should take. After a season of getting to know each other, go through a book together. Or discuss an article, podcast or other quality resource. In time, it will become natural to ask for prayer on a matter, and ask for advice.

In time you can go deeper by diving into more substantive resources (such as those listed on this site). Your journey together might focus around a hobby or past time, or it may focus around a particular topic such as their calling, their vocation, or a decision your mentee/protege is facing.

There are various models for mentoring. Mentoring can be one-on-one, or it can occur in a small group. If several protégées reach out and express a desire to meet, it might be practical to begin in a small group of 4 or 5 to start. Flexibility is important. Keep in mind several things:

Safety: Always meet in public at first. Never meet privately at first. Get to know your protege/mentor before exchanging any personal information. Follow the safety guidelines (link) in this site.

You are not alone. There is an online community of people across the country that can inspire, motivate, challenge and help you. Collaboration is key. Issues will come up that are challenging. Life is complex. And it’s messy. No one has all the answers, so utilize the resources on this website. We’ve collected some of the best resources available for you!

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